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Online Dating Story: "We were a 100% match."

By Autumn and Steven, Beaverton, Oregon Updated: Feb 4, 2010
Online dating success: Steven and Autumn
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Autumn's Story
Autumn, 31: After a couple of years of a "dating vacation," I was ready to open my life to a potential relationship. I decided to sign up with Yahoo! Personals because my lifestyle didn't include meeting people at bars, clubs, or the usual venues. My life was busy with school, work, and, because I am an introvert at heart and love to spend more time with books than chatting with new people, it seemed to be the best solution for me. I felt safe approaching the dating world this way because I could take as long as I needed.
Yahoo! Personals has a feature where it finds your best matches. So, actually, Yahoo! chose Steven for me first. I reviewed his dating profile a few times but was too nervous to send him an Icebreaker. Thankfully, Steven sent me one first, I paid the monthly fee, and began talking to my future husband. The best $19.95 I ever spent!
I was immediately attracted to him, and he was easy to talk with. I tend to be more of a listener and he is more of a talker. So, it worked quite well. He sealed the deal when he offered to hold my leftovers for me as I went to the ladies room. This, for some reason, left a powerful impression on me. What a gentleman! After two dates we were on the fast track (which was uncharacteristic of me). He gave me a key to his home just days after meeting him. I practically moved in that first week of meeting. After about a month, I met his father and his wife, whom I fell in love with.
I did have moments of questioning whether I should be involved with a man who was still officially married and working out the details of a divorce. This was a very confusing and challenging time for the both of us. Here is this very compatible, great guy, yet he is still working on closing a chapter of his life. This was very hard for me and made me very nervous.
The defining moment for me was when we were in Tuscany, Italy. We had just had our worst argument in our history. We somehow managed to resolve our issues and come out of the argument showing care and compassion, in addition to not wanting to give up on our growing relationship. It was then I realized I could not imagine my life without him. I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him, for
“he was willing to see my ugliest side, yet he was willing to hang on and work with it.”
he was willing to see my ugliest side, yet he was willing to hang on and work with it. He was invested in me and revealed his heart and commitment in that moment. I realized he was the real deal.
Steven's Story
Steven, 38: I was just looking for companionship as I was separated and waiting for my divorce to be finalized, so I signed up for Yahoo! Personals. I went out on one date, then I saw Autumn's profile. We were a 100% match. Her tagline, "Just Me" -- was strange to me, as if she didn't think very highly of herself. I sent her an Icebreaker anyway. Turns out we lived a five-minute walk from each other.
After a three-hour phone conversation, we made plans for a first date. We had an agreement: We would go out to dinner and then we could walk away, no issues. Well, we went to dinner, and then for coffee, and we closed the place down. Two days later, she had the key to my place. I called her my custom-ordered girlfriend, right down to the color of her hair.
Our relationship started out complicated, due largely to me still being married. A lot happened -- I changed careers, she decided to get a graduate degree, we moved to Portland, and my father died. But we knew we had something special, and we would persevere, and underneath there would be a shining diamond.
Six months after we met online, we did the "Big Trip" -- a three-month trip to Eastern Europe and Italy. It was a defining time of building our relationship. We had only known each other for six months and here we were traveling on a low budget, together 24/7 for 90 days -- it was very stressful. We fought. Autumn later told me (in her wedding vows) that it was in the midst of a fight by the side of a country road in Tuscany that she knew she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me.
I didn't want to do a surprise proposal and catch her off guard. We had talked about marriage before, but we weren't ready. Then one day at breakfast I said, "I'm ready." We talked about it and decided this is the next right path. Let's do this! The clouds and confusion had parted, it was pure and ready.
Our wedding was in August '08. It was very small, 20 people, just immediate family. We chose a winery near our house, to commemorate our trip to Italy and to honor my father, who loved wine. It was very informal and all ours -- we created the ceremony. It was incredible to hear Autumn's vows to me, and she was crying when she heard mine.
We love to tell the story of how we met on Yahoo! Personals. It was even part of our wedding vows. It's part of who we are. Yahoo! was an unbelievably efficient way to find exactly what I was looking for. It was a life-changing event for me. She's the one! Thank you for helping me find my life partner.
Online Dating Success Tips from Steven and Autumn
  • Give Yahoo! Personals a try even if you are reserved, busy, or unsure. You are in control the whole time. You can review people's profiles before deciding to meet them and you can email through a safe system before deciding to meet.
  • Don't embellish anything in your dating profile. Because when you meet, if it doesn't match up, you're off to a bad start.
  • Realize that everyone's at a different stage and looking for different things.
  • Meeting online will never take the place of meeting face-to-face. Use the service to make a connection, but it's your job to take it from there.
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A Yahoo! Contributor
Wonderful story. The fact that you two only lived a 5-minute walk away from each other truly encapsulates the benefits of this online dating service. Taking &quot;The Big Trip&quot; should be a fundamental way to test a relationship before marriage. Steven, you hit it on the nose: Surviving arguments under stress only strengthens a romantic bond. Congratulations to both of you.
Lysa
WOW.....what a great story.. Congratulations to u both.
A Yahoo! Contributor
how sweet
A Yahoo! Contributor
WOW , THAT WAS A GERAT STORY, WHISH U A HAPPY LIFE
A Yahoo! Contributor
Nice story............................
Ruth
Nice story there, have a safe and nice life the best of luck always in Life.
A Yahoo! Contributor
it was a nice and a romantic story.
A Yahoo! Contributor
Nice story guys..............................
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nice story. hope i can find one too who is more willing to accept me as what iam.. good luck and more happiness.
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