Dating Reality: 10 Things He's Thinking Before He Cheats
Men reveal what goes through their brains right before they decide to ditch monogamy.
By dating blogger Kristen Flanagan for Glamour
Photo credit: iStockphoto.com/© Amanda Rohde
Updated: May 22, 2009
Do
you ever wonder what thoughts run through a man's mind before he
engages in infidelity?
Here, a few cheaters share
their confessions without any sugar-coating, so you can delve into how the unfaithful rationalize.
Cheater #1: "It's
rarely a calculated decision. No one says, 'Hey, I'm going to cheat.'
They do it because it's new and different -- that's the main thing. Oh,
and those rambling excuses you get when we get caught? Those are true.
It really did mean nothing. It really was just once." -- Adam,
31
More Dating Articles from Glamour:Cheater #2: "This better be worth it." -- Michael, 25
Cheater #3: "Deciding
to cheat is a lot like spontaneously going to Atlantic City. When your
friend says, 'Hey, man, let's go to AC tonight,' you think, If I don't
go to Atlantic City, what will I be missing?" -- Sean, 26
Cheater #4: "When
I cheated it was with someone I had hooked up with in the past. I kept
thinking about how rekindling those feelings of desire broke up the
monotony of my relationship." -- Andrew, 27
Cheater #5: "I
guess I thought that the relationship didn't matter much to me.
If it's something
I want to do, why should I hold myself back?
If it's something
I want to do, why should I hold myself back? The
opportunity was there." -- Josh, 24
Cheater #6: "Sometimes
the opportunity to cheat really just falls into our lap. That's when
we're most vulnerable. We just want to feel good about ourselves." --
Carlos, 23
Cheater #7: "We're not thinking with our
brain... if you know what I mean. It's naturally programmed into our
DNA to spread our seed." -- Joseph, 23
Cheater #8: "Besides
the given -- that we're thinking how attractive a woman is -- most guys
end up cheating for the adrenaline rush; it's a lot easier than
stealing a car." -- Rob, 26
Cheater #9: "In all
honesty, I've only cheated after I heard that my then-girlfriend
cheated on me. Two wrongs don't make a right. My answer is vengeance.
Although there was no long-lasting relief from the pain that comes with
being cheated on, seeing her face when she found out was priceless and
gratifying. This was especially true because she had no idea that I
knew what she had done." -- Jason, 23
Cheater #10: "If
I had to sum it up, I would say that I wasn't thinking at all. I mean,
I pushed her away a few times prior to the act, but those were just
knee-jerk reactions. I guess I was thinking, No, I can't do this. And
then eventually, I just gave in." -- Andy, 23
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