if your partner says one thing then do another then most likely he doesnt take you that serious. he's gotten to comfortable with you so your best bet is to start doing things out of your routine. spark things up. even if whatever he tells you he will do has nothing to do with your intimacy or the relationship period so you think but in actuality it does. sometimes all you have to do is bring his attention back towards you just by giving him a litle space going out even if its just with your sister. but act as if you had the best time ever when you return show him little attention . then when he say hell do something again and does it PRAISE and REWARD HIM. he will then see that doing what he say hes going to do makes you happy and hell want to continue doing so.

You missed one. Many people say what they think the other person wants to hear. If Johnny thinks Judy wants to hear the answer yes, Johnny might answer yes, because it might be considered "the right answer." If Johnny has guessed incorrectly, he might flip-flop when he finds out what the "right" answer is...or he might be all over the place trying to FIND the right answer, rather than give his own, honest answer.

3. This article stinks. Basically the article itself, and both comments above show a readiness to be duplicitous. You deserve the insincere relationships you are advising for others.

I found this extremely helpful... Don when one is not dupicitous by nature, they may not recognize the behavior as well as you seem too.

I thought the article was insightful to a point, although I know a "liar" who lies just for the heck of it, usually to make herself look better or more important and she's not involved in a relationship with someone who is either harsh or demanding, just the opposite, he's very sensitive, compassionate and patient. He's "caught" her in a number of lies and she usually just refuses to communicate--a bad situation all around. He continues to nurture and support her which doesn't do much to help the situation. I really don't have any answers for them, I just hope she learns that honesty will out in the end.

totally don. i agree with comment # 3. direct, open & respectful communication is the way to go.

I also think he "forgets" because he is hiding something from his gf/spouse/live-in.

Here's another reason: schizophrenia. I was married to a guy and we'd have long, thoughtful discussions about things, not even arguments. We would make a plan and then he would do something completely different. Come to find out - he saw me as being "evil" so whatever I agreed to must have been the wrong choice, so he'd do the opposite. This was a very successful business man who was very intelligent, but suffered from terrible mental illness.

Maybe the "flip-flopper" is someone who changed their mind about doing something their controlling mate "convinced" them they should be doing.

It must be great to be Dr. Karen Sherman. She is obviously a miracle worker, mind reader and spoon bender. A truly rare person who can decipher each action or even thought of a person she has not met or known but only heard of in a few sentences. Just look at her analysis of the reasons for flip-flopping, forgetfulness, procrastination and people-pleasing. Her analysis not only plunges the depths of each past and present action, it also accurately forecasts future possibilities. She then eloquently dictates how one should deal with flip-floppers. Wow. We are truly blessed to receive the wisdom and advice of such a wizard and that too for free. A person like this deserves several PhDs and awards. May be we should even nominate her for a noble, I mean Nobel.