So you just want her to roll over and give you sex? What have you been doing to excite her for her to want to give you sex? Do you romance her? Take her out? Buy her flowers? Prepare a romantic dinner for two? Or a change of pace and bring in something raunchy to play with. Sometimes as the relationship progress we think we no longer have to do these things but we still do. It's about showing your partner how much you love them and desire them and how much fun the two of you can still have together. If you do all of that and she still isn't interested then you may have some serious problems in your relationship.

I think if my partner is rejecting me since there was no fighting or arguing between us recently, I would start asking my partner questions. I really do not think relationships between two people is what keep the sex going. I really thing other outside factor could contribute to not being in the mood (i.e. problem at work, depression, stress about life, etc...). I would really try to find out if she need me to help than assume there is a problem with the relationship. If my partner is not willing to talk about it, I would give her space for a while and if she still rejects me after that then I would look into my relationship.

My husband and I are often in this situation - he initiates, and I'm not interested. We both work long hours, but when he's done working, he either watches tv or pursues his interests. I on the other hand, do laundry, cook dinner, clean up after dinner, pick up the house, and make sure we both have what we need for the next day. By the time we get to the point of going to bed, I'm not only exhausted, but also resentful, because I feel like he has one job and I have two. Sometimes it's not the romantic dinner, the flowers, or the candy that turns on the romance, but the simple task of washing the dishes or folding the laundry.

My wife stopped sleeping with me a few years ago and told me it was my snoring. I went to a M.D. and found a treatment to correct it. I came home very proud I found a solution and she imediately became upset not wanting me to go through a potential hurtful treatment! I feel just as strong now as I did a few years ago, she doesn't want me period. It is much easier to go to bed alone not anticiapting sex than assuming you may have it and it never arrivives. Otherwise we get along just great. Not all relationships are 100% and ours is certainly not close to it, but we both love each other as each our best friends and entrust each other with very sensitive issues and concerns we each experience. Sex may happen some day again or it may not and until then it is taking care of all the major responsibilities of our home, each other, our health, children, our pets, friends, our jobs etc. If sex resturns then we will have a wonderful relationship/if it doesnt return and it is important then we may have to seperate at a point that is good for everyone involved.

No one should live in a loveless relationship. That's just unhealthy and not fulfilling. Yes, there may be a probelm, but being able to open up about it and being approachable are very important signs of maturity and affection and concern for one another. You both definitely have issue's of communication. Set a time to discuss it without anger or resentment and make sure resolving or a solution is the outcome. Even if this means to do it involves counseling. Get it immediately and do what you can to help initiate this to show you care.

Romance her? Take her out? Buy her flowers? Tell her how nice she looks? I did all those things for about seven years. I lost 42 lbs, worked out daily, and went from a little overweight to fit and trim. Still nothing. Anytime she asked for something I did it. If she needed help with a project I helped. Nothing. Three months ago I found out why. She had someone else. Turns out that someone else was apparently a lot of fun but wasn't financially responsible enough to provide her a car and a home so she stated with me. Never again. If my future 'other' can't respect my feelings I'll quickly and quietly show them the door. I'll make an effort but it will be short and sweet, no more seven years worth of trying to fix someone that doesn't want to be fixed.

Hello, So, I'm married and I believe that if the woman don't want to have sex is mostly because she doesn't like it as much as you and as time goes by she is just getting accomodated with the security that a marriage provides. I'm a woman and I'm married and I do have this problem but it is reverse. My husband will have sex with me, but he seems to only wait for me to iniciate. Even if I do many nice things to get his attention, still he is slow at initiation. It has been like this since the begining,but as time went by I started to feel bad, wondering if he likes the sex as much as I do. Other than that our relationship is great.But I always tell him that if sex ever wears out I would be able to live a sexless life, he always say that it won't happen. Still, I would like for him come out of the expected through me on the bed and make me feel more desired.

hello, my situation is really different my husband is 40 and i'm 28 i'm no longer into him; I really feel that i dedicated 8 yrs to him of my life but I'm ready to move on.

It seems like whenever my expartner and I had sex it was because we were getting along really good or fighting. But when I needed to talk about my feelings he would get the wrong message or he will bring up issues from the past that wasn't so good. We could never have sex and hold each other. It always ended up in an arguement. I love making love to my ex and the little connection we had at the time. But he won't let me get closer. He's never made me feel I belonged to him. After 15 years and 2 children you would think marrige was a possibility. But it's over now.

I have been married to a wonderful man for 16yrs now, together 18. We've raised 5 kids together. And now is supposed to be the good times!!!! Or so I thought.... We both work full time jobs, and ya our lives are just hectic!!! We try to do like a date nite once a week or somethin, but sometimes falls thru. Our sex life was awesome when we first started out together, now I'm lucky if we wants to play once a week. Drives me crazy, I have to initiate evertime I want too. This includes all kinds of toys, lingerie, candlelight dinner, soft music, I mean the works........ So mostly I get a lot of excuses, and at first I sympathized w/ him. but now I'm just angry. Ya, know life is too short to love like that! I cant stand it no more..........