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Dating Survey: Women on Finding "The One"

Perception vs. reality: What do women really value the most?

By Yahoo! Personals & TheKnot.com Updated: Sep 13, 2009
Dating woman finds the one
When asked, how did you meet your significant other, the most frequent response was "through friends," followed by "school," "work" or "an online dating site." Among the least cited responses were "at a bar" or "at church."
When asked how you expected to meet your significant other, responses varied from the reality, with the largest majority of respondents saying they expected to meet through a "casual encounter."
Do Opposites Attract?
When asked, how similar they were to their significant other in some fundamental areas,
“respondents overwhelming said they were similar in all but one area -- their profession.”
respondents overwhelming said they were similar in all but one area -- their profession. The following percentages represent those who said they were "very similar" or "similar" with their significant other in each of the categories.
What Matters Most
When asked, which of the following characteristics was most important when searching for your significant other, respondents ranked "family orientation/ closeness" as the most important and "income" as the least important. The following percentages represent how respondents ranked each characteristic in order of importance.
Relationship Stages - Meeting Online vs. Offline
When comparing respondents who met online with the ones who met their significant other offline, an interesting trend emerged.
“The online daters reached "relationship milestones" more quickly than those who met offline.”
The online daters reached "relationship milestones" more quickly than those who met offline.
Initial Dating - Online daters began dating more quickly than offline daters, with 77% saying they started dating within the first four weeks of meeting each other, compared to 50% of offline daters.
Feeling Chemistry - More than half (55%) of all respondents said they felt chemistry with their significant other in the first two weeks. But, 30% of those who met offline said it took between "six months" and "two or more years" to feel chemistry, compared with only 5% of online daters, who were more likely to feel chemistry earlier on.
Understanding Interests - Online daters (60%) said they had a better understanding of their significant other in the first four weeks of dating than offline daters (41%).
Getting Exclusive - Online daters got exclusive more quickly than offline daters - 80% compared with 56% in the first three months, or 52% vs. 32% in the first month, respectively.
Getting Family "Buy-In" - 45% of online daters got "buy-in" within three months of dating; whereas only 31% of offline daters did.
Engagement - Online daters got engaged more quickly - more than two-thirds (70%) of online daters were engaged in less than two years, whereas more than half (55%) of offline daters got engaged after more than two years.
Marriage - Online daters married more quickly - 38% were married within two years of engagement, while 62% of offline daters married after more than two years of being engaged.
Do You Believe in Magic?
Love at First Site - Two-thirds (64%) of all respondents said they didn't experience love at first site, with only one-third (36%) saying they were hit with Cupid's arrow.
Leaving It to Fate - An overwhelming 78% of people said they felt like they were fated for their significant other; 22% said it was just "pure chance."
First Kiss - Slightly more than half (54%) said they kissed on their first date.
Separate Quarters? - A majority of respondents (70%) said they will live with their significant other before getting married.
Survey Methodology
Yahoo! Personals and TheKnot.com polled 9,500 adults in North America during March 2008. Ninety-eight percent of the respondents were female. Complete survey results are available to members of the media and can be obtained by requesting them by email.
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