Building the Perfect Personals Profile -- Yahoo! Personals

GET STARTED

Create Your
Personals Profile Let the person you are looking for find you! Creating a profile is free, so get started now. Create a Profile

RELATED ARTICLES

GETTING STARTED

Building the Perfect Personals Profile

Online daters and an expert tell you what they want to see and what they wish you would skip

By Dating coach Andrea Syrtash, ONDating Special to Yahoo! Personals Updated: Nov 20, 2009

RATING THIS ARTICLE

Read all 10 comments

TOOLS

I answered the phone last week, and without even a hello my friend barked, "He looked NOTHING like his photo and was about a decade older!"

Sound familiar?

The number one complaint online daters have is that the person they meet is completely different than the person depicted on the dating site.

Writing your online dating profile is like writing a good cover letter in a job search

Writing your online dating profile is like writing a good cover letter in a job search -- its sole purpose is to capture the reader's interest so that he or she wants to meet you and learn more. You can market yourself effectively without inventing a whole new persona.

Online daters come across many profiles, so it is important to distinguish yourself. Believe it or not, simple things like checking your spelling, posting a good photo, and keeping the write-up concise and upbeat can be the difference between someone following up with you, or clicking onto someone else.

Here are some other 'dos' and 'don'ts' to keep in mind when you're constructing your dating profile:

Do Post Photos

Most people miss the boat if they don't include a photo in their profile.

Most people miss the boat if they don't include a photo in their profile. If you're too shy to include one upfront, make it clear that you will offer the photo if you feel a connection with someone who writes to you. You should be aware that many, if not most, people won't even look at a profile if there isn't a photo included with it.

Don't Post Many Photos

I know you have many cute looks -- on the go, with your family, or with that really great tan last year in Mexico -- but resist the urge to post more than a couple of photos or else you'll overwhelm your audience who won't have a clue which photo you actually look like now.

[Editor's note: Yahoo! Personals allows you to post up to 10 photos with your profile and add captions to each so you can clear up any confusion about when a photo was taken. However Andrea's advice is correct. Don't confuse viewers about what you look like now.]

Post a Photo of Yourself Solo

Your niece may be really adorable or you may want to show that you hang out with cute members of the opposite sex, but it's better to stay solo in your photo online -- and on that note, don't include a photo where you've cut off someone's arm wrapped around you. C'mon! Digital cameras make it easy to get at least one good shot of you on your own!

Create a Compelling Essay

DO be concise but specific to ensure you capture the reader's interest. Instead of saying, "I love to travel" mention the best trip you've ever taken. Replace "I have a good sense of humor" with something witty. Bottom line: show don't tell!
DON'T justify why you're online and say things like, "My mother made me do this but I hate online dating" Stay upbeat and humorous and you're more likely to get noticed.
DO have someone else (preferably of the opposite sex) proof your profile to make sure it flows, highlights your best qualities and is free of spelling and grammatical errors.
Remember -- online dating is like speed dating -- you have a very small window to make your impression.

Finally, a note about honesty -- not telling the truth about your relationship status, the way you currently look, or exaggerating certain characteristics has become the cardinal online dating sin.

My friend insists that the majority of men who post their height at 5' 9" are often 5' 7" or under and many women who post 29-years-old are actually over 30.

It's generally not a good idea to embellish too much since a big part of dating is about expectations.

It's generally not a good idea to embellish too much since a big part of dating is about expectations. And really, do you really want to start out dating someone new by being dishonest?

It is true that online dating can be like a big bargain sale -- you may have to sift through some junk to find the gems. Don't let that deter you. There are some amazing people waiting to meet you online. Have fun!

Daters tell Andrea Syrtash about what works and what doesn't in online dating. See her tips for creating an online dating profile that attracts the people you really want to meet.

More OnDating

Born in Toronto, Canada, Andrea Syrtash has been living in the United States for almost a decade. Andrea served as special editor for two books, "How to Survive the Real World" and "How to Survive Your In-Laws", and has written and lectured extensively on dating and living your best life. She has offered advice on NPR, in USA Today, as a writer for The Huffington Post and on NBC's Today Show. A graduate of The Coaches Training Institute, Andrea has been working with clients as a Life Coach over the past few years. She writes and hosts a dating advice show, ONDating, produced by NBC Digital Studios for ON Networks.

1-10 of 50 First | < Prev | Next > | Last

Report Abuse 1. Posted by FRANK Thu, Sep 3, 2009, 1:02 pm PDT

Very helpfull will be making changesmon my profle.

Report Abuse 2. Posted by Vick Thu, Sep 3, 2009, 7:06 pm PDT

i ned to youare number

Report Abuse 3. Posted by Ramesh Thu, Sep 3, 2009, 5:38 pm PDT

lehho friends who wants me call me phone 9746266196 in qatar.

Report Abuse 4. Posted by Annie Thu, Sep 3, 2009, 11:55 am PDT

Good! Outline for dating: Men and women have miscontrue ideas of the opposite sex. Best advice of all is ... Come clean. Lying about anything is the cruelest thing in the world you could ever do. Be who you are. Don't try to be someone you're not. It never works.

Report Abuse 5. Posted by Annie Thu, Sep 3, 2009, 11:55 am PDT

Men and women should come clean. For any person , lying about anything is the crulest thing in the world they could ever do. So, be who you are. And, don't try to be someone you are not. Besides, it never works.

Report Abuse 6. Posted by Mikey Thu, Sep 3, 2009, 4:18 pm PDT