Divorced mothers with children still at home have no business getting married again until they are grown and on their own. Divorce is hard enough for childen without mom bringing another man into the picture. P.S. The same thing goes for divorced dads.

Only 3 new people a week? Give me a break - you need to be approaching and flirting with AT LEAST 10-15 people per week (20 would be better) if you want to make it to a relationship.

I am thankful god has encouraged me to come out of my shell to bloom and to take the positives I am getting from people.I think it is up to the person who is going out if god saya it is time to go on you should make your self happy and your kids will go on and grow up.

Excellent article! As a response to the first comment: What about single divorced mothers who are in their 20's? I'm supposed to wait 20 YEARS for my son to grow up & be independent before I can start looking for someone to stand by me & support me, both as a woman and as a mother? What about the my son's need for a "father figure"? It goes the same way for divorced dads with children! On a side note: my mother remarrying & "bringing another man into the picture" was the best thing that ever happened to myself & my siblings. Why? Because kids need to have a mom AND a dad...regardless of biological factors.

I'm just an average Divorced Shy Man..Who raising two Girls one 15yr and one 17yr..You can say that I mite have my hands fill...L.O.L No there good kids..OK Back To This... I would like to find A woman who is open minded with life, who is honest and easy going, who just went to have some fun now in there life. Someone to hang out with, who like to party on the weekly ends. Who would like to be my beer buddies to drink with, play pool with, laughs and have a genuine good time .Who Would like to explore the unknown in Life and explore the unknown in of the Body.."Who knows"We may learn Something.... Well there little about Me..If like to know me better..Say Hi !!!

"Set a goal of contacting at least three new people a week"....I just don't see how that could be done. I don't even meet a single new person in months....when I was young I did not feel meeting new people was a problem....when you really grew up your own personality and view of world and view of life, things changes....now I am in my middle of 40's, I don't feel I could do what you suggested here....I wish I could though

you should try to talk to as many people as possible. This is a odds game, the more you talk to the chances of success.

I've joined 3 different dating services, have actively contacting people for 3 months now. I've just now gotten my first 2 responses (yes, 2!!). It's hard work - only one out of every 15-20 people I send communication to actually responds. Discouraging. Being a single mother, I don't have any more time to devote to this issue than I already am. Being a single mother, I don't have the financial luxury of arranging for a sitter on a scheduled night to free me up. And again, being a single mother, I don't have the time/energy to journal any of those things. I'm lucky I make time at the end of the night to update my checkbook before I fall asleep. Let's be reasonable & take off the rose-colored glasses. If it's meant to happen, it will. Focus on what's important to get you through the day!

Ok...I've got to chime in on this blog! I'm a mid-40's divorced Dad, who's managed to gracefully end a long-term marriage, put my kids 1st (whom I share custody of) and honestly forge a healthy working working relationship with my X (for the sake of the kids)...I've done all the right things. I am a successful Director at a systems company, own a home, have friends, family and overall balance in my life. I have a profile on-line (not Yahoo currently) which I've been told accurately reflects me as the above, my pics are current...I'm in good shape and looks wise, your "average Joe" Sadly, over the past 2 years I have time and again raninto this dilema that #1 points out....Women in this internet age have ~SO~ many choices they often pass right by on a guy like me! I've met several, who find me 100% as I advertise, a gentleman, even a sweet-heart....but the "grass is always greener" for them and in the end they are not willing to "settle" for a decent average guy... I have but 2 questions... 1) am I the only guy experiencing this? and 2) what's the best strategy here? thx!!!

I've been dating online for 10 years. Over that time, I've dated many women and the ones that turned into a relationship were women with no kids (I want to date a woman, not the whole family), who were never married (no way do I go out with divorced women..... all they talk about is how horrible their ex was). And guys, make sure they pay their own way. Going out on a lot of dates and paying for both people is very expensive. I've also met many women who just use online dating for free meals, presents, favors, etc. Some are out there scamming guys with no intention of developing a relationship.