i I just recently got out of a relationship with mike, a 42 year old man from huntley. after 4 months, his neighbor woman confronted me and told me they were messing around and had been since while he was still married. i was so in love with him. how do you know if they can be faithful?

I'm talking to someone now and I really think they're the right person. We have alot in common and she is beautiful and smart. I just hope she likes me as much. I think this could be a serious relationship. I think we would be perfect together and I hope she sees this too like I do.

have been on my own for quite a while, just looking for some pointers , to help bring me back up to speed. thanks

Whoaaaaaaaaaa...this article totally nails it on the head! Wish I had this book and read it many years ago 'cause it would have saved me an incredible amount of wasted time and energy! The 7th paragraph spells it out completely... Many of us fall prey to going out with people who only fulfill a need in the moment. --- Wow...been there, got the free t-shirt and bonus coffee mug! In order to experience long-term fulfillment, we must create and stand in our vision for the future. Only when we have a clear vision of what we are looking for in a partner can we evaluate whether the person we just met is consistent with that vision. ---- Thank you, thank you, Ms. Ford....definite food for thought!

I've been onine dating a guy for 4 months now. We've only met in person once, on his terms. He says he works a lot and is always busy. I really like him. We have alot in common and find more in common every time we talk. We both said we weren't in a hurry with a realationship. He lives 2 hours away from me, and I never hear from him on the weeekends. He doesn't answer his cell on weekends if I call. He only calls on his way to work a few times a week. I think he's hiding something. He swears he isn't,just that he's busy. I'm tired of spending every weekend alone, or waiting for him to show up because we made plans that he just up and cancels. I understand work and family obgligations can be time consuming, but I'm running out of patience. I'm not anxious to get married tomorrow or anything like that, but how do you build a long term relationship with someone you never see? I think sometimes he gets scared because the more we talk, the more we have in common and his last marriage left him bitter, so he's not in a hurry. How do I be there for him and be a friend when I want more for the future, or do I just cut the emotional strings now and say I'll be seeing other people, but it's wonderful to have you as a close friend???

From the previous message, this guy is playing you. He isn't that interested in pursuing a relationship, or he would make an extra effort at seeing you. Please save yourself any further heartache and move on!!

For the first time ever, I have paid more attention to the "book" instead of the "cover"...one step further...I didn't read the last page first! lol Once I found out what the book was about, the cover became very attractive. For the first time in my life, I have fallen in love.

Ms fords article does nail it on the head as the gentlemen above mention, I came out of a long marriage, that was emotionally draining, exhausting and I could go on and on. I wish I had known the right questions, years ago and I still don't know why I hung in there so long. But the bonus is, if I did I would not have met a very pleasant interesting woman. From what I can see, the book is just as pleasant and beautiful as the cover.

To sharon's message: I'm in the opposite situation. I've enjoyed being with a girl that I met online, but am extremely busy. She lives 2 hours away, and I've had to make plans and cancel them twice in the past 2 months. I think she is starting to get upset, and I tried to warn her before we started dating of my schedule, but I know it is still hard. But the thing that stresses me out is the attitude of "I must not care about her", or "If I was more interested I'd make more of an effort." Nothing would make me angrier than to hear something like that when I have been trying so hard to spend time with on this relationship.

in order of finding the best partner to suit most of your needs I agree with this writer that one does need to be careful these days..Don't be in a hurry and its best to take one day at a time--When a guy responds to your profile you must reply to acknowledge that you are or are not interested,,thats step one no matter what..When there is a mutual attraction you can arrange to meet at a busy restaurant and discuss whatever you wish but I like to know what the person is looking for and what their interests are right away..To discuss things right off the bat in person is always better. I watch their face when I ask them a question to see if they hesitate and if they look angry one can tell what you are up to by watching their face and their reply...do not go anywhere alone with them and do not give them any personal information...Its always wise to ask them about their friends and what they do in their spare time...always be relaxed when meeting someone for the first time..and be safe not sorry...Good Luck