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Love Lessons From History's Great Seductresses

By Betsy Prioleau Updated: May 22, 2009
Betsy Prioleau
The dating game is no walk in the park for women these days. As if the babe competition isn't tough enough and Mr. Right more elusive than ever, there are few operating instructions. What love advice, if any, can we get from the seductresses of the past?
A lot, it turns out. History's greatest enchantresses, women who ravished and captured quality men, knew a long-forgotten secret of fascination. From Cleopatra to the present, they practiced an almost identical love craft that's powerful, smart, and based on a timeless system of erotic artistry. And it's full of surprises.
Looks aren't everything
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“Though beauty may jump-start male interest, it doesn't fire the jets.”
Though beauty may jump-start male interest, it doesn't fire the jets. To inspire real desire you need what the seductresses had: character, swank, and love smarts. The incomparable Josephine Baker, for example, couldn't have been plainer (buckteeth and a boyish build), but she understood passion. When seductresses described themselves, they boldfaced idiosyncrasies -- defects and all -- and strutted their stuff: "I've got sagging breasts and a low-slung ass," said one, "but I [have] a very high opinion of myself." And they didn't wait by the phone; they put it out there. Remember, "Venus favors the bold.
But how did they make sparks fly?
These seductresses all used the same erotic modus operandi. Chemistry, they knew, had less to do with appearance than mental magic. Which is not to say that they neglected sensuous turn-on's. On the love path, they deployed physical lures for maximum impact. They punched up fashion, body language, settings and the music of their voices. Cerebral charms, though, are where the action is. Every seductress worth her stag line put the big money on mind spells, the most important branch of the traditional love arts.
When a fascinator like Pauline Viardot worked the voodoo of her personality on men,
“no one could resist this 'very ugly' nineteenth-century opera diva.”
no one could resist this 'very ugly' nineteenth-century opera diva., including Ivan Turgenev, the literary Brad Pitt of his day. She sparkled with warmth and life, massaged egos, dispensed TLC, released inhibitions, threw delicious parties, and talked "like a princess." As an aphrodisiac, nothing beats the sorcery of conversation, especially spiked with wit. After all, Aphrodite is the "laughter-loving goddess."
Keeping the flame burning
If the mind is the supreme erogenous zone, the key to love madness is emotion-in-motion. Seductresses stoked desire into a passion through a continuous interplay of elate and sedate, delight and difficulty, intimacy and mystery. They spun men's imaginations like a top, traded in surprise and difficulty, and weren't afraid of the "no" word. Men don't want another over-easy pleaser, they want to labor for love. They want a one-in-a-million somebody who keeps them entranced, interested, and on their toes.
Seductress
Betsy Prioleau, a Richmond, Virginia, native, received her bachelor's and master's degrees in English from the University of Virginia and a doctorate in English from Duke University. She is the author of "
The Circle Of Eros: Sexuality in the Work of William Dean Howells" and "Seductress: Women Who Ravished the World and Their Lost Art of Love." She has been a professor of English and world literature at Manhattan College and a scholar-in-residence at New York University. She lives in New York City with her husband and daughter.
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