Dating Advice: 4 Ways to Inspire Him to Pursue You
How to covertly encourage the man you've been eyeing to make the first move.
By dating blogger Ryan Dodge for Glamour
Photo: iStockphoto.com/© Jacob Wackerhausen
Updated: Jun 2, 2009
Hey,
fellow singles,
Saturday was particularly righteous: I rode my bike around Brooklyn and
hit up a fun loft party, where I chatted up a cute girl.
Don't
get too excited -- it didn't lead to anything, not even her number.
Why? We both got distracted by friends and didn't reconnect. The
interaction itself wasn't anything amazing, but it did lead to an
intense conversation with my boys about picking up single women at
house or apartment parties.
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all agreed that house parties are the ideal venue for making a move --
you're at the same party so you have at least one thing in common, it's
easier to mingle, and people are more open to strangers than at the
bar. That being said, scoring a girl's contact info is never easy. Here
are four favors you can bestow on the lucky fella who has caught your
eye:
1. Break off from your girlfriendsCheck
out the host's bookshelf. Head to the kitchen for a snack. Watch the
party game. The Millionaire Matchmaker was right: when you're
surrounded by other women, he's not going to come over and risk being
rejected in front of an audience.
2. Roll with his pick-up lineOdds
are the first thing out of his mouth will be corny -- just smile and
help steer him towards a more natural line of conversation. (On
Saturday, my opening gambit was complimenting her for wearing a nice
dress, which I really did like.) Remember, pitching yourself to
strangers is hard.
3. Find a way to reveal that you don't have a boyfriendWhen
hitting on a lady, I'm always bracing myself for the moment when she
brings up her significant other. Clear the air by casually mentioning
how you pity all of your coupled friends or love being
independent.
4. If you get separated at the party, mention that he should find you before leavingEven
when I hit it off with a girl at a party, I neither expect nor want to
talk to her the entire night. At some point I need to go to the
bathroom, get a fresh drink, and brag to my friends. But I do want to
end our conversation on a high note, so it's great when the girl takes
the initiative and somehow indicates this isn't the end of the
line.
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