Dating 101: How to Be a Total Man-Magnet
A girl who got paid to help guys meet women shares her insights into what motivates men to make a move.
By Christie Griffin for Cosmopolitan
Photo: Getty Images
Updated: May 22, 2009
Do
you ever go out sometimes and feel like guys aren't giving you the
attention you deserve, and you can't figure out why?
That used to happen to me too. Then I became a part-time "wingwoman" --
a girl who helps guys meet chicks by posing as the guys' platonic
female friend. (Wingwoman services are available in many cities,
including New York, Los Angeles, Chicago, Dallas, Miami, and St.
Louis.)
While earning my wings, I
learned lots of little tricks every single girl can use to improve her
dating success with guys. Warning: Once you perfect these moves, you
might find that you're such a powerful man-magnet, you attract guys
everywhere. I used to date a guy who asked me out at the
ATM!
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tip #1: Go out in groups of no bigger than three.
Larger groups of girls are supertough (read: intimidating) to approach.
Three is a good number because your two friends can keep each other
company when a guy walks up to chat with you.
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tip #3: Smile genuinely. So obvious, right? But I
can't stress it enough -- and I can't believe I ever acted aloof in an
attempt to seem more cool. Now I know that women smile all the time
naturally (when we're nervous, when we're trying to be polite, etc.),
so if you don't do it at all, you look unapproachable.
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tip #4: Work the eye contact. To reel him in from
across the room, tilt your chin down a bit and flash him a couple of
sultry glances. (Guys love it when you look up at them -- it makes them
feel manly.) If the guy across the room is so gorgeous you have a hard
time looking straight at him and are simply too nervous, fake it by
focusing on the tiny area right between his eyes. He won't be able to
tell the difference.
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tip #5: Don't immediately ask him what he does. Some
men think all women are gold diggers. A lot of my clients hated being
asked what their job is. It's that fear-of-being-used thing
again.
Dating tip #6:
Make positive small talk. Once I started studying
other women, I couldn't believe how negative some of us appear. When
you're out on the town, you're supposed to be having fun, and any
complaint ("It's hot in here!"), pessimism ("There will definitely be
another terrorist attack"), or snarky quip ("Look at that chick's belt
-- so 2002!") pretty much pokes a hole in the fun-girl aura you should
be projecting. Some better small-talk topics: recent vacations,
favorite bands, hilarious movies. You can hit him with your deep, dark
world-view some other time.
Reprinted with permission of Hearst Communications, Inc.
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