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And His Ex Makes Three

By Sheila Ellison Answering your questions about dating for single parents and after divorce Updated: May 22, 2009

I've been with someone for two years and have a feeling he's not over his ex. We have both been divorced for eight years. How do I get that out of my mind or take it for what it is? -- Shea H., 29, Guntersville, Alabama

Shea:

It is hard to be in a relationship if there is an extra person floating around

It is hard to be in a relationship if there is an extra person floating around, especially an old wife/lover. What is it that he does or says that makes you believe he isn't over his ex? Sometimes we let our thoughts and fears get the best of us. If you love this guy, you need to get to the bottom of this and at least give him a chance to tell you whether or not he still has feelings for his ex. Listen with an open heart. He may have feelings for her, but also know that they don't work together.

Sheila Ellison is the author of "The Courage to Love Again: Creating Happy, Healthy Relationships After Divorce," "The Courage to Be a Single Mother: Becoming Whole Again After Divorce," "How Does She Do It? 101 Life Lessons from One Mother to Another," and "If Women Ruled the World" as well as six bestselling parenting books. She is the founder of SingleMomsConnect.com, an organization that connects single mothers in a one-to-one friendship that offers practical, emotional, and physical support as each woman rebuilds her life. She has appeared on "Oprah," NBC's "Later Today, and "The Early Show" on CBS. Her web site is CompleteMom.com.