Robert: It is too soon if all you can think of to talk about on a date is how horrible your ex is and what she did to ruin your life! Some people work through the grief of losing a marriage while they are still married; they take the time to look at what part they played in the relationship failing, and are honest with themselves. They are ready to date. The issue isn't really how soon to date after a separation or divorce, but rather if you are using dating to avoid doing the work you have to do in order to move on, heal and grieve. If dating is an avoidance technique, then maybe you should wait. However, dating can also help in this process if you are clear with yourself that dating is an opportunity to learn about yourself, to choose different patterns and to meet others who are on the same journey.