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Why Do These Guys Disappear?

By Tom Blake Updated: May 22, 2009
Tom Blake
I have been having mixed success with Internet dating. I have posted attractive pictures of myself on several dating sites. I am truthful about my wants. Why do I keep finding men who are satisfied using emails to continue communication? I have talked with guys for weeks. Given my phone number when appropriate. Talked on the phone a few times. We seem to click and I either get tired of them cutting off contact or they just want to be buddies and send me jokes, which I block. Or they just disappear. -- Marcy I., 53, Charlotte, North Carolina
 
Marcy, Internet dating can be a wonderful way to meet people you wouldn't otherwise meet. But there are many flakes using it, as we all know. It's a numbers game.
“Don't email or talk on the phone too long before meeting in person.”
Don't email or talk on the phone too long before meeting in person. You could waste a great deal of time and reveal too much personal information to someone you may not like when you meet in person. Long-distance online relationships are difficult because the distance makes getting together difficult.
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Tom Blake has written more than 600 newspaper columns on middle age dating and relationships. His "Single Again" column is featured in the Orange County (Calif.) Register. Tom is the author of two books: "Finding Love After 50: How to Begin. Where to Go. What to Do" and "Middle Aged and Dating Again." He has made multiple appearances as a keynote speaker at national AARP conventions and as a dating after 50 expert on the NBC show, Today. Tom offers a free weekly "Finding Love After 50" e-letter at findingloveafter50.com.
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