Dating Advice: 8 Tips to Get Him to Notice You in 10 Days
By Master Matchmaker Steven Ward for Glamour
Photo: iStockphoto.com/iofoto
Updated: May 22, 2009
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"How
to Lose a Guy in 10 Days"? No offense to the movie, but that's not
exactly the advice most women are looking for. Steven Ward, the Master
Matchmaker and host of the VH1 reality show "Tough Love," shares his
best advice for snagging the man of your dreams in days.
1.
Stop playing hard to get. A guy likes a girl who has
got it going on, but if you want to find love in 10 days and you're not
around, it isn't going to happen. Being unavailable seems rigid and
high-maintenance. If he throws out a time that doesn't work for you,
either say yes to the next option or propose a date of your own. If you
won't make time early on in the relationship, single men take it to
mean you definitely won't make time later.
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Be attentive: This is not the time to text.
Conversation is like kissing. It's a two-way street, and those roads
are meant to be shared. Be sure to ask questions, answer questions
thoughtfully, and engage in conversation. Make eye contact, and please,
please, please put your cell phone away. If you must make or take a
call, excuse yourself as courteously as possible and don't be away for
more than five minutes -- or you'll raise suspicion and doubts. Think
about it this way: How would you feel if he left you alone to chat to
his friend about how the date was going?
3.
Try something new. It's usually the man's
responsibility to make the date fun, and that puts a lot of pressure on
us. So even if you don't like the activity we've picked out, go along
for the ride with an open mind and positive attitude. Example: He
suggests a Red Sox game and you hate baseball. Instead of whining about
it, have him buy you some beer and Cracker Jacks and ask him questions
about the game. You never know -- you might find a new
hobby!
4. Let your
guard down. Past relationships and bad blind dates may
have made you jaded, but don't assume this guy "is just like all the
rest." And not that you would, but under no circumstances should you
bring up your guy woes around the new object of your affection.
Apologies for the cheesy analogy, but if the baggage doesn't fit in the
overhead compartment (or under the seat in front of you), it's not
going to be an easy trip.
5.
Stop texting and no one will get hurt. Don't be that
girl who communicates only via abbreviated words and emoticons -- and
don't let him be that guy. When you're starting to date someone,
texting, emailing, or instant messaging should be used in emergencies
only (like when you lose him at an insanely crowded, loud
concert).
6. Know the
power of your outfit. We all buy into the latest
fashion trends, but your goal with your date is to lure him in. Men
want to see you in something that shows off your figure but isn't
sleazy, which sends a message of desperation. Another sign of
desperation is looking like you tried too hard. Guys aren't lying when
they say they want a girl who can roll out of bed and still look
gorgeous. Find a happy medium, and when in doubt throw on a pair of
body-hugging jeans, a top that makes you feel beautiful, and
heels.
7. TMI is never a
good thing. Sharing too much too soon can be easily
misconstrued. Anecdotes and good conversation are always a plus (see
tip number one), but when talking about yourself, leave out unnecessary
details. On the list of forbidden topics: exes, family plans, and
anything else that could send him heading for the hills.
8.
Keep him wanting more. No matter how well a first date
is going, be sure it doesn't run into the wee hours of the morning.
Every man loves some TLC, but if you want to keep him coming back, I
recommend leaving the first couple of dates to intimate goodnight
kisses.
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