Dating 101: Five Reasons Why the Holiday Season Is the Best Time to Date
By Dating coach David Wygant
Special to Yahoo! Personals
Updated: May 22, 2009
I
get more emails from singles during the
holiday season than any other time of the year. These
emails generally have one of two types of comments: "David, I am so
down because I don't have anybody to share the holidays with" or "The
holiday season is such a lonely time of year. It's a bad time to try
and
meet
someone new."
So many
singles tend to mope around during the holiday season. I have to tell
you, though, that I feel the exact opposite way about being single and
meeting someone during the holidays.
Here
are five reasons why the holiday season is a perfect time of year to
find a
date, and some tips on how to meet someone during the
holidays:
1. People
have taken year-end inventories. The end of the year is
a time to reflect. You reflect back on what has happened in your life.
You reflect back on the people you've dated during the past year, or
the lack of dates you had. You might think back on some of your dating
"near misses" or the people with whom you just didn't
connect.
During this time of year, many
people are more vulnerable than usual because they do not want to spend
the holidays alone. Due to this vulnerability, people will open up more
if you try to engage them in conversation. As it gets closer to winter,
and especially during the holidays, people tend to be more willing to
date people they otherwise wouldn't during the rest of the year. You
have so many more potential connections right next to you every day of
the holiday season. So keep this in mind about how people are feeling
this time of year, and start being a little more friendly.
2.
Christmas shopping. The holiday shopping season seems
to begin before we've even taken our pumpkins off the porch, which
means that there are a lot of days to go out Christmas shopping. You
can go Christmas shopping every single day (whether you are actually
looking for presents or not) during the holiday season. This is really
the one time of year when you can wander around in stores in which you
would normally not feel comfortable.
One
of my favorite things to do to meet someone during the holidays is to
go Christmas shopping and ask for opinions. If you are a man, you can
head into the women's department and bop around getting opinions on a
present for your sister. If you are a woman, go to the men's department
and ask for opinions on a gift for your brother. You can start a
conversation with virtually anyone by pointing out an item and saying,
"Excuse me, I am shopping for my boss (or brother, sister, or mother).
What is your opinion on this?" It is a natural and easy way to talk to
someone new.
3. No one
wants to spend New Year's Eve alone. We have all been
to New Year's Eve parties where we've had to endure the 5-4-3-2-1
countdown without someone to kiss at midnight. It's not fun.

No one likes to
spend New Year's Eve alone. For this reason, there are a lot of people
looking to connect with someone in time for New
Year's.
No one likes to
spend New Year's Eve alone. For this reason, there are a lot of people
looking to connect with someone in time for New
Year's. So how can you meet all these people? Well,
the holiday season offers a number of really fun (and easy) ways to
approach someone -- and to make yourself very approachable.
You
can walk around wearing a little Santa cap to spread some holiday
cheer. Or walk your dog with reindeer antlers on its head. One fun
thing I had the guys do at one of my boot camps was to play the
"naughty or nice" game with women. This entailed them wearing Santa
caps and carrying around stockings filled with candy canes. They would
walk up to women (and women could do this with men) and say, "I'll give
you a candy cane if you tell me whether you've been naughty or nice and
why." There are a million fun little ways to use holiday props to meet
people, and with all the holiday hustle and bustle people often
appreciate a little bit of fun.
4.
Unlimited holiday events. Going to holiday-related
public events is another way to have fun and possibly
meet your
potential soul mate. Shops often will stay open late on a
Friday night, and towns will have things like Christmas walks and open
houses on store-filled streets. It's amazing how many people you can
engage just by wishing them a merry Christmas or Happy Holidays -- and
end up in a great conversation.
5.
Plan your own events. The holiday season is also the
perfect time to create your own fun activities. For example, throw a
Secret Santa party where you invite singles and tell them to bring a
gift for someone else who is single. Or have a holiday party where you
ask your guests to bring someone to the party whom no one else has met.
This allows you to start building your social network.
So
try having a new mindset this holiday season. Instead of thinking about
what you didn't have during the past year, why not be thankful for the things you've
accomplished and end of the year with a
bang?
Start engaging
other singles a lot more, and you just might surprise yourself. Then
when 5-4-3-2-1 comes around, you could be looking into the eyes of that
new mate you met during the holiday season.
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