Anyone who has been married more than once does not nessessarily have issues!!! Sometimes you just meet the wrong people or over time people change and grow apart instead of together. Don't ever give up on love or marriage poster one, If you had said you were in 3 long term serious relationships instead of saying you were married 3 times you wouldn't be judged nearly as bad... In my experience i would say go with your instinct, if it doesn't feel right, then it doesn't feel right for a reason. Thats natural intuition, good or bad it was given to us at birth and we need to learn to read into it ....GoodLuck to you!!

If a person continues to have one unsuccessful relationship after another it is definitely time to take a look at yourself. Not that there is anything wrong with the individual it may simply be a matter of choosing the wrong type of individuals to have a relationship with. I myself have had several bad relationships one of which lasted for over ten years. Once I sat back and took stock of my choices, I realized that there were signs early on that these individuals were not right for me I simply chose to ignore the signs. I agree that the best thing is to go with your instincts , if it looks like a duck and quacks like a duck it probably is.

That is just so WRONG! Who made you God of all the other loving people in the world. Just because you trashed your relationship, it doesn't mean everyboy does.My ex an I were married for 15 years. We tried to make differences work out, but time took its toll. We have been friends for three years now, supporting each other as friends are want to do, watching each other's pets over get-aways and vacations, etc. All we did was remove the sex and commitment, and allowed the friendship to re-blossom. It is immature to state blanketly that this does not work, just because you failed so miserably!

If you're positive that your partner isn't over his ex, you could pull out the jealousy card - go out for coffee with a male friend regularly - that demonstrates your value and keeps your options open. You know you're an attractive woman - now drive the point home by saying through your actions "if you're not sure what you want (read: me), then I'm not sure if I want you." -- Good luck and I hope you find what you're looking for!

I think I have that problem as well. I met someone who has been divorced for 2 years and he still has pics of her in the house. 4 or 5 scattered all over the house! I asked if he would ever take her back and he says no. He also sent her flowers on her birthday and occasionally looks at her checking account activity. I would like to believe he is over her but all the signs point otherwise.

Men who are wise do a great deal to keep peace with their ex - when kids are involved. That can be misinterpeted.

all very interesting comments...here is another situation, a man I met a year ago & at that time separated from his wife for 5 years (living in same house, a tri-level, has 2 kids, who have only seen their home life like this) no intimacy between the 2 for those years separate bedrooms, we have been seeing each other for over a year with him deciding to start divorce mediation beginning of 2007, in feb they start marital counseling (1st time was 5+ years ago)now beginning of July marital counselor tells himto move back into master bedroom and does...I told him I won't see him o r talk to him until mid to late august....just looking for some feedback....thanks

was that meant to be advice? I hope you have been in a relationship & have faced struggles, that challenge your heart, soul especially when you both believe you have met the love of your life...however you are trying your best to make the right choices for all involved.....that doesn't mean someone is a sucker!

I'am going through something familar.I remarried a person i new from high school.We were together for 5 years and things began to go wrong so i decided to live him.It's been almost two years since we separted and we still continue talking to each other,but it's him that calls me more and wants to know what i'am doing.I'v e told him that he needs to stpo calling me and to continue with his life cause we are not going to be able to go back,cause it's been almost 2 years already.And what i don't understand is that i'am his second wife and we don't have kids in between,and with his first wife he has 3 kids and they were married for 7 years and they can't get along.

I'm seeing someone who won't let go of his old lovers because they are "friends". I'm full of anxiety over it and don't know what to do. One of these hags calls, emails and text messages him almost daily. My shrink said lose him because the "elephant in the room" is me. I asked what she meant. She explained that when a person isn't over his/her ex- then the new relationship is actually the "mistress" because the old lover is where the loyalty may lie. I'm confused and would love insight as to how others have handled old girl friends who can't move on. Then again, maybe he;s still holding the torch and he's the one who won't move on. Help! What is a 50+ granny supposed to do??