People need to understand and respect others feelings and wishes. Life is to short to rush things. Live one day at a time and enjoy it...

The only way you will get a man to date you casually is if you tell him you are looking for a serious relationship. Men ALWAYS want what they can't have. ALWAYS. So if you say you don't want a boyfriend, it will just be a magnet for people who do want a girlfriend. It's also true that men totally disregard what you write most of the time... if they like your picture or even jut a particular line you wrote they can convince themselves that they're exactly what you are looking for. Men always think they have more to offer than they really do and women are the opposite. If you want to do online dating, you have to know the psychology. It doesn't follow any normal logic by female standards.

the bee never knows which flower it pollinated, because it is always looking for the next one.

"If you want to do online dating, you have to know the psychology. It doesn't follow any normal logic by female standards." True, very very true. However, there's no ALWAYS or NEVER when it comes to men and women's behaviors. You have to be able to ask the right questions that will get the answers you need. There's nothing wrong with wanting companionship and it sounds like she's being clear but even with that, she's going to get the ones who don't read things closely. With online dating and will all dating, you must be able to take it with a grain of salt. I wish her well in her quest. And Peter-I have NO idea what you're talking about. Do you?

intimidate them! intimidate them with your bold outspoken statements about having NO wishes for a serious relationship. if the guy can't resist and still tries to pursue, just chat with them. nothings's going to happen if YOU don't want to happen, regardless of what they have in mind. so ignore persistance unless you like it, and just have fun with these men.

Not every gal gets that kind of attention. Enjoy it. You have to know when to say NO MORE and stick to that decision. We guys are used to rejection but when we meet a great gal, we have to try. That is part of life. Enjoy it while you can. Don't quit because guys want a relationship. Be thankful. One of them might change your mind.

In my experience over the last 1+ year trying this online dating you are the exception Carie. The majority of female profiles I have read say either they are looking for "the one" or they want to develop a serious relationship. That may be what they truly want, but by saying that point blank they are scaring off the majority of men right away. Even men who are looking for the same thing will read that and see "I want to rush into a relationship as fast as I can." Personally, I'm not looking for a "serious" relationship that will lead to marriage within a year. I have a busy life raising two teenage boys and don't have the time to devote the proper amount of time a serious relationship needs. That being said, I'm also not looking to hook up with as many women as I possibly can. Ideally I would like a monogamous dating relationship with a woman who understands my time constraints. Who accepts that I only have one evening a week and part of a weekend day to spend with her, and is OK with that. I simply am not willing to devote most of my time to a woman right now, thereby taking that time away from raising my boys. So no matter how enticing the profile may be, how engaging, pretty, intelligent, fun she seems, if I see the words "THE ONE" or "Serious Relationships ONLY" then I'm simply going to pass it by.

I think it is good to use "The one" to scare off guys who do not want to try and and who do not have time for women.Men who put women last on their list and just into multiple dating women for life.To weed out guys who are not serious or mature enough to have a decent monogamious relationship.Hello, dont guys want to be the one or one of the fifty? (and not know it?)

Forget the games and the reverse psychology stuff. Honesty is best. You have to be yourself.

Keep in mind that a lot of people men and women, use some form from somewhere to send inquireys to people. I am serious! my friend does the dating /freindship thing and she gets these emails form guys, but like 85% of them are identical! The 1st thing you need to do is block all of those guys that don't take the time to read your lookup. Because it isn't going to change in real life, it will be him his and what he thinks, you will not even exist. At least get a guy who is real, not a copy paste guy. You deserve it, and remember guys, as many times as you don't want to buy the cow to get the milk? Ladies don't want to buy the pig to get the sausage.