Well, that was just plain rude! I have my wish list, and I am not dressed as a 'French maid'. You have to make a list if you want compatibility. Any tall nice looking Veterinarians out there in their late 40's early/mid 50's? ;-)

Wow, you completely missed the point.. compatibility is one thing (and important), but he's referring to not having so much narrowing search criteria that you over-limit yourself. Keep the "list" down to what's important to you, and call the rest variety. Sure, I'd love a 110 lb D-cup cutie with degrees in both music and engineering, but I know I've had great times with women who were far from that body type, didn't play an instrument, or weren't technically inclined - so I don't exclude them. Besides, you don't need someone to match EVERYthing on your list to have stuff in common with you, just a few things. Signed - Someone who's list is also too long for his own good

I think I would have better luck camping on my own, or going back to the clubs. Never had a problem meeting anyone there. Thought this would be safer. Your article was right on the money. Too bad for most of us..

I think your right most women and men are like that and its sad. I was one of those women I haev changed my outlook and found the best guy he's everything i wanted and need!:)

OMG, lol cause (no offense to the rest of women) but there are many like that out there. short story is some girl I met who was awesome, arguably best I ever got along with and vice versa, but... she "expected" certain things and her "criteria". Mind you, she also has super model good looks and was hit on all the time, so was I supposed to give in?, uh no that's not me. We were dating 2 weeks when she was inquiring "how many stock grants I had", and a few weeks later telling me about a friends $1.2 million dollar house and asking "you think we can afford that in a couple years?" and all I thought was 'hmm, we've been dating 6 weeks', and she'd say things like "why don't you do everything I say, don't you know I know what's best?". Ok, ladies, we acknowledge women know better, but I mean it when she meant everything, but cause no one ever told her know. What guy wants to live that way? Yeah, none. And, of course, she thought any ring under 3 karats would be small. (Yeah, we only dated 5 months). Awesome girl, possibly the person I wish i could be with the most, we got along that well, but she just had to have it her way all the time. Oh well, i wish her the best. Now ladies, as a guy, we realize the ring size (and CCC), and "status and all", means more than we can understand, however if a guy gives any resistence it's only b/c sometimes the woman takes the approach as if the size of the ring means we love you more. I want the girl I am with to want me more than anything, u'll get your ring, and us guys will listen, but we want u to want us!!! Women don't like it when us guys play hard to get, esp women in their 30's, but that's life. meet us half way? :) if not, oh well, we'll move on.

First of all, profiles don't mean a thing in real life. People can write anything or copy/paste from other "cool" profiles etc. Many are written from a fantasy point of view of who and what the author wished they were really like. The only true way to get to know anyone is face to face by observation over a long period of time. Many people I''ve met on Yahoo have an inflated self immage and try to transfer that image onto the pages of their profile. Pretty soon they actually believe this is really who they are, when in reality,, they are nothing like the fabulous person they write about. It doesnt take long to find out who they are when they apologise for the "litle lies" they told in their profile. Best advise: meet face to face, observe, then meet for a real date with a real person who has an accurate self image.

This article is true to life (mine at least). I tried online dating for several months, though found just by physicalities alone I was ruled out by women, not to mention lifestyle, money, politics, and religion. It proved a serious waste of time, effort, and money. My parameters remained open, though it didn't matter. Forget about how individuality can make everyone great... You have your idea of "mr right". If he is not everything you want then he is not worth your time. Get over it. And it is not just women. One of my best friends is the same way... no girl is "perfect", though he is with the best thing that ever happened to him, all he does is complain and continue to search for "the one". And for some reason, I am the one alone? I, the antithesis of picky, alone? Give up your standards and meet someone who might actually be worth it.

I have to agree with the article. When I posted my profile, I thought of the men I have enjoyed dating and set the criteria to match them. After reading this article, I thought about the fact that none of the men I enjoyed going out with resulted in a satisfying relationship. Maybe what I think I want, is not the same as the best person for me. I will consider broadening my concept of Mr. Right.

I can't agree more with you. I think the most important thing is character. Can you share a laugh? Does this person make me feel alive when I am with them? Do they care about people, family, friends, etc? My thought on it is finding the one you want to be with can be totally off from what you ever imagined. If you can keep an open mind (of course if you are attracted to them though) you are being open to possibility and that is the best thing you can do if you are really looking for something true, something special. I am such a corny, cheesy romantic, yet in all practicality the person you meet and like are going to come with imperfections, you need to be able to work with it.

I for one, am not going to settle for anything less than what I want. I know what I want, I know its out there, and when I see it, I'll do something about it. When I see it, there will be an instant click, I wont have to force it, I wont have to try hard, its just a matter of time. Ive had it before, and things didnt work out due to geography. Thats no ones fault. Im not limiting myself to anything except what I want. Whats so bad about that. So what If Im single while others are dating. After all, theyre just dating. DONT SETTLE PEOPLE.