Bravo to all responders! I especially related to Chelsea Summers comment! Right on! I deal with this same issue all the time and I'm one of those people who try to come up with possible reasons for the other person. I SO wish I didn't do that! But just as Chelsea said...."Maybe he'll call, maybe he won't. At the end of the day, you're still the fierce woman who takes risks and looks for what she wants. You'll find it, whether it's with him or someone else."

If a guy doesn't call you back he isn't interested. This is life. Do not sit around and wait for the call. If someone is interested, usually at the end of the date they will suggest another event, or something to do on a specific day, or give you a time frame. Usually if a guy is vague saying "I had a nice time" - I'll call you... don't expect a phone call. Typically you know when you are getting a call, when you have the slightest doubt that you aren't getting a call, you most likely aren't.

He was probably just being nice. Maybe he thought it was just a "friend" date and you, like most women, took the his good intentions as as an opportunity to sink your hooks in him and he ran for the hills. I don't blame him!! By the way, you shouldn't date people you work with anyway!!

I don't like the advice in this arcticle given to the girl to call or email the guy to see if he is interested or not. Girl, if he is interested HE will let you know. You pestering him about whether or not he is interested is a sure fire way to make him not want to hang with you. Be cool. Give it time no matter what,,,the worst that could happen is you develop an actual friendship. NO PESTERING. ;-) That goes for the guys too.

If I like someone, I call right away. Time or no time, there should always be a sense of importance when dealing with someone you are interested in. give it till the weekend and if he doesn't respond, move along.

Sometimes it doesn't work out the way we wanted to. In dating & courtship if you have a great self-esteem or a low self-esteem there will always be a factor, that factor is you will always take a risk with rejection. None of us want to be rejected or feel rejected. But its the risk we take that make us better people. If you never had ask this person out you would still be wondering "what if?". So he hasn't called you back. The man works two jobs. At one point in may life (not to long ago) I was working 3 jobs and going to school, yes there was someone in my life at the time and no it didn't work out because I didn't make her 1st or even 2nd in my life. Yes I loved her company but I had to get on my feet and keep my education #1. She moved on and well I had to work. So I know your keeping that in mind...but if he doesn't call then you have to write it off and just take it as he was being nice in buying dinner and spending an evening with you. If he likes and wants you he'll call you back. Love still exist and there is someone for you...if not him then someone else.

Congrats for asking him out. Now, you need to stop calling him. I think it was great that you called to thank him for a great time but I wish you hadn't asked him out again. Even though he agreed to go out with you the first time and you both had fun, I'm yet to meet a man who wants to be pursued ALL THE TIME and at this point, you've asked him out 2 out 2 times. Chill out and do what you were doing before you asked him out. If you meet him at work, be pleasant and say hi but please don't hang around waiting for him to ask you out or explain why he didn't call you back immediately. No matter his reason for not calling, (and he could have a very good one, like "I was exhausted from 18 hours of work"), you still need and deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you so give him a chance and some space to show you if he's that kind of man, and if not? Be glad you asked, be glad you had fun and then move forward. Good luck!

I agree with Caroline Presno's answer. You have to not sit by the phone brooding over this guy. Give him a few more days and then make one last effort to call and see if there's something there or not, that way you don't wonder for ever about if he really wanted to get back in touch but was just working working working, or if he really wasn't the one for you!

Coming from a guy, that is pretty cool that you asked the guy out. I don't know how many times I have found out someone was interested in me after the fact - when it was too late, when they were apparently mad at me for not seeing all the "obvious" signs. It is not typical for women to ask guys out, and sometimes women go overboard with much an "I'm easy" vibe. The combination would scare a lot of guys away, especially someone at work. Given that he is at work, just let it go. She probably shouldn't even try to be friendly to him at work if there is no reciprocation. It could lead to a sexual harrassment complaint. It is not worth it.

I would have to say this is a man with a mission on his mind, and it ain't romance. This is a person who is very much an individualist, who simply does not take the thought of "mindless chatter," or going out for the sake of going out as a worthwhile endeavor. I can pretty much guarantee you, that even if it was a good time, he won't be the one to call again. I say leave it for a while, and if something REALLY interesting or fun comes down the pike, approach him again, ask him if he would be interested in going or accompanying you...then go for it. This guy will be won over by the quality of your interactions not the quantity.