Amen to that above.

I agree sex has to happen it cannot be forced. Sex is the culmination of a relationship, it is not an act. It is something which should be houred and respected to be enjoyed.

Yeah - you set your own timeline. I wasn't really comfortable with it until my honeymoon. -a guy =)

I voted awful. You can wrap it up all fuzzy, but the fact is, unless you have sex with a man on the first few dates, he won't want to see you anymore. To believe anything else is to be living in a fantasy world. And yes, that's why I'm still single.

I must be the luckiest woman alive! I am involved with a man, and we have jointly decided to wait. Until when? We don't know yet - but we are 6 months in. Do we want to? Absolutely! But, we have both been married - and got physically involved with our 'others' too early and then were 'willing' to overlook problems. We both want to learn about each other with 'clear' minds. We've talked about that we can ALWAYS change and mind - and go physical. But, once physical, you can't undo! So, for now, we are choosing to wait - and respecting each other more!

It is not just guys that are like how you describe..... I've met many women that just want sex. The problem is........ I want more than that.!!

If a man or woman wants an actual relationship and likes you enough, they are going to be willing to wait--for as long as you need them to. If you believe anything else than you've been tricked by a crazy world that tells you sex on the first date is the norm. I've decided to wait until marriage, and have had plenty of boyfriends--all of whom were more than willing to wait for me, even though they knew it would probably be years and years away. I've never had anyone break up with me, and as a matter of fact I find all the guys I date are much more emotionally invovled with me than the guys my friends (who are not waiting) date. I believe that a physical relationship too soon will only harm the potential of a long-lasting relationship, not encourage it. There is no such thing as having a physcial relationship "too late", and you will never regret waiting. Don't think the right person isn't going to be willing to wait for you, or give you a try just because you're not willing to have sex right away. Just remember: don't ever give them anything they haven't earned. :-)

The world is old so, the humans. U can only trust a virgin. How do u wait for a woman who has her 'stand-by generators'? (I mean unworthy or secret sex mates). How do u choose a life time woman without sex in a relationship? Some women are too crazy for sex and may not make a good home later. Its better to check it out earlier then, make a decition.

I agree with the initial statement. I am recently back on the dating scene after ten years. Most of the guys I encounter are talking about sex withing the first few conversations. One gy even told me that I am young and I should enjoy my life. Who's to say that I'm not enjoying my life without it. I have been a widow for a littler over a year and it's very difficult for me to be intimate with someone I don't have strong, sincere feelings for. Not to mention the fact that I am terrified as the devil of contracting ANYTHING--not just HIV. I don't get it. People have become so desensitized by sex everywhere you look that they are reverting back to the way we were in high school when our hormones firts started kickeing in and we didn't know how to control them. I have always had a limit of three months at least because I feel it takes at least that long to get to the point where we have both decided that a serious relationship is what we both want. Also, I get to see if they really want to be with me for me or for the sex.

I find that sex really confuses things. You need to REALLY get to know someone before you have sex with them. Otherwise, if the sex is good, you start to overlook things about them that you DEFINITELY would not have overlooked if you weren't sleeping with them.