He's a cheater- He proved that with his wife. He wants to keep you in his pocket because he "loves" you, yet he wants extra candy on the side too. The feeling of being able to pick up a chick and having her want him sexually. I suggest moving on and finding a real man that honestly loves you, not just the game of catch and release. Be careful though, if you tell him to take a hike, he will profess his love for you and only you, then take his extras on the side... just like with the wife. A lot of women want to be "the one", but when you find "that one" he wont want, or even ask, to be with anyone but YOU!

The last piece of advice was ok, ignore the other two. Let me tell you something, from a guys point of view, if he wants to sow his royal oates, he's going to do it with or without your permission. I'm surprised if even told you about it, most men just do it. I'm going to tell you how to play him (or you'll find out real quickly if he really loves you or not). Agree to this. Tell him considering the recent circumstances, that you agree this will be good to strengthen your relationship in the long run. Right now, he's going to be confused because he's not going to expect that. However, make sure he knows this is a mutual thing, that you'll be dating as well and you must date as well. Make sure he knows you're going out with people, don't return his phone calls right away, if he asks where you were you had plans, if he pushes, tell him it's not his business, or you can tell him you were a date if you really want to make him nuts. You'll probably be closing more deals than him! If he really loves you,he'll put the kabosh on the "seeing other people". If he doesn't care about your other dating, well, he just doesn't care about you as much as you think nor does he love you, at least now you know.

You have to learn to work through the ups and downs of marriage and commitements. Men and women both get bored after a while. You have to find the true joy of intimacy. I do not mean in the sack, anyone can do that. Find time to spend with each other and examine why you guys were attracted to one another in the first place. If it was all sexual then you are probably out of luck. If he wants to run around because he has gotten bored then he learned nothing in the first divorce.

PLAYING GAMES IS NOT THE WAY TO HANDLE THIS ISSSUE.

Don't go deaf and blind to the facts. Once a cheat, always a cheat. You are setting yourself up in the crosshairs for a major heartache if you stick with him. If he's not satisfied with you now, he never will be. Things may be 'different' with you than with his ex, but, as that saying goes, the more things change, the more they stay the same. Find someone else to fall in love with.

You're 43 years old and you're still letting men treat you this way?! Um...hello?! I'm half your age and if my husband gave me that tired old line I'd say, "There's the door, buddy!" I felt this way with my last boyfriend when I met my husband and now I"m married! Chances are, there's something going on in your relationship that he's unhappy with and wants out since it's not getting fixed. If you want to try to make things work, I think you should seek counseling to get to the root of what's wrong. If not, let him go and find someone who wants to be with you always.

As a man who's been married once, I would say let him do whatever he needs to do. If he's made it clear that he wants to play around in the single life again then there is no reason to hold him from that. This is honestly a situation in which you will just have to let me go and hope that he will come back to you. But, in the meantime, make sure you aren't sitting around waiting for him

Sherry, You need to really decide what YOU are looking for. If you want casual dating in your life right now and you are comfortable with the prospect of dating other people (and him dating others), then let him have his space. I disagree with others urging you to rub in his face that you too will be seeing others. He will see this as you seeking to contain him. Again, if you are truly comfortable with a casual relationship with him (and others), then maintain a casual relationship with him. Who you choose to see besides him is then only your business. On the other hand, if you are truly looking for a serious, exclusive relationship, then you need to tell him that. Don't get mad or upset, just be calm and tell him that he should not feel bad about wanting a more open relationship, and that is his right, but that you have different goals.

I agree with Mike, Adam and even Ishmael ....... I think this whole "mid life crisis" is a mans excuse to do things they know are wrong. If a man says he needs to sow his oats, its way of saying he wants to cheat and make excuses for it. But, that is just my opinion!

I suppose it may be wrong to make judgment here but believe me ...Once a cheater always a cheater !!!!