I seem to get people with NO conversational skills at all, who I then tell I'm not interested, or people who ask tons of questions, which I then answer, ask a few back, and then no response.... so, Hopefully these tips will work for me!

Even though I am older than the 32 year old male above and am a female, I experience the same thing. I have men view me and I send an email and never hear a thing from any one of them. What are they looking for? Why do they keep viewing my profile? It almost seeemslike they really do not want a relationship, want only sex or are looking for their return to youth!!!!!

I am a 34-yr old female and experience the same thing. Most of the guys don't reply. Why are they even on the site then? Too bad that there is no control over the seriousness of the profiles, but it certainly defeats the purpose. Good luck to everyone... May you find true love! :)

I'm 32 and have had no problem either getting men to send me email or getting replies in return. I don't mention wanting a relationship in my profile, even though I do. I also like sports, mainly football, and this attracts A LOT of guys. However, I refuse to answer men who mention any kind of physical nature or sex in their profiles. This helps me weed out the obvious..however, I also don't answer the ones that appear too emotionally needy. There are nice guys out there, I've met them, I just haven't chosen them because I think another girl might fit them better. I don't know about you guys but I'm having a blast! Girls, learn about football, its the best thing I ever did!

I have now had some experience with online dating, and have found many of the realities of "real-world" dating still apply. Men are still men, even in cyberspace. We're driven by the same stimuli. In short: We want to know what you look like. There is a strong visual component to how we choose our partners. That doesn't mean, ladies, that you must fit within a preordained set of physical parameters or all conform to certain stereotypes in order to see your mailbox fill with offers. Different men like different things. But we need to see those things to know whether or not we like them. In other words, put some pictures on your profiles and maybe we'll drop you a line. So many of you don't. Why? Are you afraid we might recognize you from the office? Does the requisite technological skill evade you? Your looks aren't our ONLY criteria, but your all kidding yourselves if you think any man will respond to the little grey faceless thing.

I think that being more flexible about some things,like height, distance (within reason) color of hair, etc. can open up more possibilities of meeting someone. Keep the ones that are important like values, and "deal busters". I always wondered why a man would keep looking at your picture without e-mailing, also. When that happens to me, and if it's someone I would like to talk to, I write back and say, "I see you have looked at my profile, would you like to start a conversation?"

What bugs me to no end is when a guy puts his picture on his profile and it has his EX in it. OMG how irritating. No girl wants to look at a possible mate with his ex. I think this is one of the biggest "dont do's" in internet dating! If any guy (or even girl) can tell me why they do this ... maybe I could start to understand!?! I just ignore any guy who has an ex in his profile (even if it is "half" cut out). If you cant find a picture of yourself and post it, dont post any!!!

As a guy I get VERY few women making the first contact, so I'm unable to answer your exact question. I understand that women get tons more contacts from guys than the reverse, but ladies if a guy with an interesting profile sends you a message try sending a message back. Of the few women who have bothered to take the time to respond to my initial contacts over this past year the ones that interested me enough to want to continue a conversation were those who seemed to put some actual thought into their message. I always mention several things about a womans profile that I found interesting and really appreciate when a women will give me the same courtesy in her reply (women seem to be almost as guilty as men of scanning photos and skipping the text). It is a huge turnoff when I recieve a message that's one sentence long, generic, or sounds like she is bored. I figure if a woman can't take 3-4 minutes to read my whole profile and write at least 4 sentences then she probably isn't going to put any real effort into dating or a relationship either. And contrary to what some may believe most guys don't like the coy shy act, they like a woman with a personality and who is willing to chat.

I AGREE WITH ALL THE ABOVE. THIER ARE TOO MANY WOMAN AND GUYS PLAYING GAMES I MY SELF MENT A WONDER FULL WOMAN,BUT IT TOOK SEVERAL TIMES. [TIPS, ]BE HONEST AND SINCERE. MONEY AND LOOKS ARE NOT WHERE IT IS AT. IT IS WHAT IS IN THE INSIDE THAT COUNTS.

I don't have much experience with online dating, but here are my observations: When I make a decision to answer a contact, first I look at the pictures not just to see how cute the guy is. I found that I could tell almost right away if the person is intelligent, educated, and pleasant to communicate with. While reading profiles, I pay attention to the language they use mostly for the same reasons. For those of you who like to type in capital letters, you should not that it is considered rude on Internet and can be only appropriately used to shout! I also agree that posting a picture of oneself with a woman is definitely a turn off! Some things do not come across very well through e-mail. It is easy to get misunderstood, and most people get very judgmental in the rush to answer several e-mails at one time. However, just like with real life, patience and impulse control can be a great help! Good luck to everyone :-)