To the rebounders? I say take 12-18 months off before you even consider coupling up for the long haul. Take that time to rediscover who you are as an independent person.

I don't like this answer. I've been one of the "certain number" of women to date before getting serious and it hurts. Hurts bad to fall for someone just to have them say, oh by the way, I like you, but I'm not looking for anything serious right now. And while some of you think that telling them upfront is the answer, it's not. I was told this too, but I still held out hope. Yes, naive I know, but it happened and I was crushed when what was obviously a one night stand lasted two months and then ended. Personally, I believe that the whole rebound thing is a myth anyway. Who knows when you're going to meet the "one"? Could be the second person you meet or could be the 234th?

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Take heed in what you read here -- it's great advice. I did a rebound marriage four years ago and it was the biggest mistake of my life! The problem is your vulnerability at the point you're likely to get involved in a rebound relationship. It makes it hard to hear sound advice like this. Someone could have told me the advice contained in this column and I would have ignored it at that point. Remember what George Washington said: it's better to walk alone than in bad company.

Marriage is a mistake. You don't need a piece of paper to prove your love. You can be totally committed and loving, giving the best of yourself, without getting married. If you've been married before, jumping into another marriage sooner than at least 5 years after the divorce is a huge mistake.

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I dated and fell for a man that had just left a 6 year relationship within the past 6 months of us meeting. He told me he didn't have the mental capacity in him to give me a commitment because he was just out of a relationship. The best thing I knew to do was to just let him go and let him be single and hope he finds his way back to me and the timing is right. Timing is everything.

I was given the advice after my marriage of 9 years ended in divorce to allow 4 months for every year of marriage before having any serious relationships with another woman. Well, at the time 3 years seemed like an eternity, and I felt some kind of arbitrary time frame was ridiculous. Nonetheless, 4 years later I am still searching for that special someone, and exceptionally happy to have had the chance to find myself in the meantime. While I still can't say I completely agree with arbitrary time frames for finding love, it has worked for me.

On the surface, the response above seems great, but following it could lead to a different set of pitfalls. Say for instance that you meet a great woman, and you really hit it off. Instead of talking things out with her about how you're worried about getting into something too quickly you date a few different women for a set period of time. This particular woman may not find this acceptable and you may lose what may have been great. Instead, it might be a better idea to sit down and really think about the qualities that you cannot stand in a woman. Some may be things you experienced in your marriage, and some may be things that just don't fit into your view of your life. After, think about things that a woman must necessarily have in order to make you happy in a relationship. Once you've got these things clear in your head, date with no expectations. If you find yourself going on multiple dates with anybody evaluate them in terms of the things that you need or can't handle. The only way to overcome the irrationality that comes with strong feelings is to be coldly analytical. In my opinion, this is the best way to protect yourself from a rebound relationship that could lead to another failed marriage.

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