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Perfect Your Dating Approach With a "Prop"

5 easy techniques for starting a conversation

By David Wygant Updated: May 22, 2009
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How many times have you been out and a hottie catches your eye? Instead of approaching her, you sit there paralyzed, wondering what to do. Sure, you could say "hello"... but then what? Time and time again you come up with nothing and wind up alone, watching her leave.
This "self-sabotage" is easy to avoid with a simple, surefire technique I've been teaching for years: Use "props" to strike up conversations with women, and you'll never have a missed opportunity again.
“Props are anything nearby you could use to start or maintain a conversation.”
Props are anything nearby you could use to start or maintain a conversation.
Here are five examples:
1. She has a great dog, so you pet the dog and ask, "What's your dog's name?" Obviously she will tell you, to which you can comment on how sweet the dog is and the conversation should naturally unfold.
2. You're in a cafe and she has a newspaper. You can ask, "Do you mind if I read that section when you're done?" When she gives it to you, ask, "Anything exciting I should read first?"
3. On an airplane, ask to borrow a pen. If you're feeling really courageous, once you've got her pen, shake her hand and say very seriously, "Nice to meet you, I'm ranked #2 among America's Most Wanted Pen Thieves. Ever seen it?" Sure it's kinda cheesy, but
“it's also the kind of off-the-wall thing women love”
it's also the kind of off-the-wall thing women love.
4. At a diner, ask her if you can borrow the salt from her table. When she gives it to you, say, "Thanks, I saw you eyeballing it so I thought I'd help out by removing the temptation for you. Salt is very bad for you, ya know," as you proceed to douse your own food with it -- another one that's sure to get some laughs.
5. In a bank line, you can even use the lack of customer service on the part of the tellers as a prop. Why? Because it gives you something to talk about -- that's exactly what props are for.
Props remove the most difficult part of starting a conversation. You don't have to be clever. You don't have to be funny. You don't need to use a pick-up line. All you need to do is be aware of your environment and find something to talk about.
What's the most novel approach you've used to meet someone? Tell us
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Interesting and, in my case, it&#39;s true I like cute and funny come-ons.
Dick
Its all about the approach. You have to &quot;feel&quot; the vibe you want to put out. Be like water, take on the shape of your surrondings.
Dick
Yes, the approach is a critical element of any first impression. You must really &quot;feel&quot; the vibe you want to convey. Be like water, take on the shape of you surrondings.
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#&#39;s 1 & 2 are decent, usable tips that might actually work. #3 - If a man said some cheeseball line like that to me, I&#39;d say, &quot;Most wanted, eh? Then wait here while I get security&quot;. #4 - Ugh, what woman doesn&#39;t love a man who points out that even minor indulgences such as salt should be seen as a potential threat to her weight? #5 - A man who comments on poor customer service lacks the virtue of patience (and I don&#39;t care HOW big his deposit is...).
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The only one of these examples that might work is the first one about the dog. If nothing else, at least the dog will give you some attention. However, I would scrap the others. They&#39;re so bad that it&#39;s embarrassing to even read them. Asking to borrow a pen on a flight and making some bad joke about pen theives is so obviously trying too hard that the woman is either gonna laugh at you or cringe in embarrassment. Look fellas, by trying to pick up women, you&#39;re giving them the power. Then they walk all over you because they know you&#39;re ga-ga over them and you&#39;ll do whatever they ask. Don&#39;t let them have that control over you. You know what? Seriously, my advice would be to ignore women all costs and take up some other hobby. They&#39;re poison, I tell you. And really, do we need to keep reproducing anyway? This planet is already overpopulated.
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The article is realistic and so practical. Women wont be noticing that guys are already making their first move on them. The tactic is very witty and enticing!
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I agree that it&#39;s all about the approach and the tone. It also helps if you&#39;re an attractive guy, or at least very attractive to the woman you&#39;re talking to. Take the pen thieve line. I would only use that if the woman next to me was seriously checking me out. Of course, if she&#39;s already checking you out, then you could say &quot;I was raised by gorillas!&quot; and she&#39;d say, &quot;Wow! That&#39;s so cool!&quot; If I used the pen thief line on any other woman, she&#39;d probably call for security like poster 4 intimated. Basically, it&#39;s an over-the-top line. I think that David Wygant offers a lot of fantastic advice. However, I think he&#39;s missing some of the perspective of the average joe. For the average joe, some of the lines will come across as creepy or too bold. There&#39;s a difference between lines that are used to connect and create an attraction, and lines used to maintain the and magnify the attraction that she already has for you.
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Some women want to be approached directly and asked out! A good time should be had by both parties.
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Except for the dog approach, these lines were really awful and are guaranteed NOT to get you the date. I&#39;m a woman and my recommendation is that the prop idea is a good one... but make it something natural and not so corny that she will roll her eyes and think you are a total geek. If you&#39;re on a plane, borrrow a pen and strike up a conversation. Talk about your destination. Ask her where she is from, why she is traveling, ANYTHNG but stating you are the #1 pen thief in the U.S. Bottom line is that if a gal has any interest at all, the conversation will flow. If she doesn&#39;t seem that interested and only gives you terse answers, face it, she&#39;s not interested, she has a boyfriend, she&#39;s a lesbian, she hates blond men, whatever you want to think... just do both of you a favor and leave her alone and don&#39;t take it personally.
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I think it&#39;s a great start environment is very important...
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