I think that the photo's I posted look exactly like me, however I have met men who seemed disappointed when they met me. On the flip side I have had men tell me how much prettier they thought I was in person? It is all in the perception and we have no control over that. I also think that if you exchange too many emails before meeting someone that expectations can become a bit unrealistic and set you up for disappointment. All in all I agree with the just relax and have a good time technique. Beleive it will happen and it will. I beleive.

I have had the same thing happen to me. I present myself in exactly the same manner as I do on the pre-date phone converations/text messages/emails, as I do on the dates, and they seem genuinely interested in me on the first date, and even ask if I would like to go on a second date, but I never get that second date. I find it very frustrating, because if I knew what I was doing wrong I could fix it, but no such luck. Maybe I am dating the wrong guys, even though they all seem to very different to me.

got some 2nd dates but not much.. either i like them or they dnt like me. but i was always told i have ur nr or i will call u.. and no calls anyway. so i learned to knw guys, dnt expect tht if they say like that they really will? Nope , its like they dnt want u to be dissappointed. just remember when theres a 2nd , a 3rd date then ur sure there will be more of it coming... but some guys are really weird...either theyre hiding something or just not 100% sure if they really want to be in a relationship or not..hmmm

agree with all of the above...however, another thing is to be very critical of one's personal appearance. Neat, clean dress, nice teeth (whiten if possible-also takes 10 yrs. off appearance).

I too am finding the same. I am a great looking professional woman. They see the photo, email, call, and then when we meet, they give you this "I'm not feeling it" or "there just isnt a spark". I think that women are much more forgiving and tolerant when it comes to "feeling it". I prefer to give a guy a few dates to see if there is something there.....that first sight or spark thing isnt always the correct way to judge a person. And I do agree that every one that doesnt call , or is a 1 date only , puts me one closer to meeting the best man for me. Nothing I can do about that but say "next"!

If you're attractive, successful, easy going, etc... maybe the guys are intimidated. We all know women have insecurities, but most guys I know have more, it's just not easily detected. Also, you can't force a spark. I've been on dates with attractive, fun, 'perfect' women, but if it's not a human, emotional, same brainwave sort of date, then there is no spark. I'm no expert, but my advice would be to ask the guys. You've probably collected 100's of emails, and most won't reply, but I bet a handful will. And don't take it personal if one guys says something screwy, he's probably a head case. See if you can get some answers from the dates and see if there's a trend. If there is, decide if you're being true to yourself to correct it. There is s pretty good chance you've done nothing wrong and just haven't yet been lucky. It's also possible there is a dynamic that neither you or them understand, and it will remain a mystery. I feel that I've had a strong, healthy approach to dating, but I'm still single at 31. Sometimes, I just have to believe the numbers game eludes a few of us longer. GOOD LUCK, you're obviously trying hard, and that will payoff some day. Don't hesitate to mix your approach up a little, experiment with dating styles (casual v. fun v. intellectual, etc). Also, since you have so much going for you, if they are intimidated, maybe focus more on an activity that takes the pressure off, like tennis. Make sure you're not coming across as desperate either, I've had that problem many times. The guy wants to have to 'WORK' at earning your heart and time.

Response #6 - thank you! Very smart, nonjudgmental, no-bull answer from a guy's perspective. The woman who finds you when you're 32 will be very lucky :-)

One thing I've found: sometimes the guy on the first date will set you up for a further involvement. E.g. you've had dinner and they want to know if you want to go somewhere else for ice cream, or you've met for coffee and they invite you to go sightseeing in their car. I don't get in ANYONE's car unless I've known them for more than an hour. Some guys seem to either take this as rejection or be put off by it, but it's not worth putting one's safety at risk for! If you are true to yourself and do what you are comfortable with, you may miss a few second dates, but someone worth seeing again will "get it."

It's all image: If you have it, you'll go places. If you do not have it, you are DOA. It is as simple as that. Just as women always seem to have chemistry with only the tall, good looking, fit and financially successful men, image is everything. Hate to say it but, even when dating, if it does not go past a certain amount of dates is because of the image thing.

Try this. Instead of worrying about yourself and how they percieve you, try being yourself and sizing them up to see if they are right for you instead without worrying over the 2nd date thing. If it happens great, if not...NEXT! Turn the tables and try to figure out if they fit the bill.