This is jaded, but some people want a virtual relationship because they have something to hide (like the fact they are married)

I agree. People tend to disappear out of thin air, even when you think you are getting along. I also agree you shouldn't wait too long to talk and then meet. People that don't want to meet probably have something to hide. I think you need to hear the inflections in the voice to get a sense of what the person is like. It does work. I've been seeing someone I met on the internet for 8 months now.

off this subject but what do you do when a gal you know and is a sweet person is going out with a man I lived with he cheats and lies makes women fall head over hills in love with him do I talk to her or let her find out on her own. He had just asked me out again and I found out he has been seeing this other gal for over a month.

So in one of the other 'related articles', the woman is complaining that men want to have sex too soon for her likes, and in this article, the woman is complaining that the men are taking too long to get to know her. Anyone wonder why most men think women are crazy?

What about all the guys who act like they are having a great time on your first date, tell you they had a great time, kiss you with some degree of passion at the end of the date, tell you they will call you soon, and then vanish from the planet? If I had a great time, I send a quick email the minute I get in the door thanking him for a wonderful evening. If I'm not interested, I either say so at the end of the date or send a nice email the next day. Why don't most men extend this common courtesy, and why do they kiss and run like that?

I'd like to leave a comment for Susan in Fresno who is concerned about a friend who's been seeing a guy that isn't honest and trustworthy. If you were her, would you want to know what you were in for? I've been in similar situations and even though it hurts, it saves a lot of personal heartache in the long run. Trust your instincts. :)

To post number 7, that's very cold of you to lable all men as jerks. Not all of us are the same as some of the people YOU may have met, so don't judge us all from past experiences.

The term for that is "poof". As in he/she "poofed" on me. Often someone finds someone else, or an existing relationship turns serious. Or because of some factor, like distance, someone just gives up.

Not all men are jerks, but girls, they just don't communicate like we do. It's not personal, just the way they are. Don't wait too long to meet or else if you don't like them you will have wasted each other's time. Also, if they don't call you within a couple days of the first meet, so what. Move on and meet someone new. And remember, "busy" equals just not that into you.

Meeting on line can be deceiving, men and women have this overall problem that they hit it off with each other, communicate great , have alot in common....then when they see each others picture...they judge them ugly if they dont meet up to there physical standards. We are a shallow species that look for perfection but are to ignorant to understand that no one is perfect. That is why we fail at relationships...