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Single on Valentine's Day?

6 tips for getting your dating life back on track

By Kristin Cavins Updated: May 22, 2009
Kristin Cavins
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February 14 is approaching, and while your friends are excitedly discussing their romantic plans and expectations of candy and roses, you're dreading another night alone, cuddled up on the couch in your sweats, watching a "Grey's Anatomy" rerun.
Being single on Valentine's Day is never easy. So resolve now to get yourself back in the dating game with these six steps:
  1. Look at dating as a learning experience. So, you've had bad dates. Don't get discouraged! In dating, like everything else you do, practice makes perfect. After all, the whole object of dating is to find out what you do (and don't) want in a potential partner. Keep an open mind and you may be surprised at what you learn about yourself through dating.
  2. Be true to you. When you try to be someone else, you're less likely to find "the one" who is right for you. We all want to make a good impression on a first date,
    “but don't be so concerned about being perfect that you end up pretending to be someone you're not”
    but don't be so concerned about being perfect that you end up pretending to be someone you're not. You are looking for someone with whom you're compatible. That means taking a deep breath, relaxing and being you.
  3. Make a list and check it twice. Take a moment to write down the qualities that you want in a partner. We all have a mental list of "must haves," but putting it down on paper makes it easier to identify the traits you are seeking. Otherwise, you may end up dating "that cute guy/girl you have nothing in common with" rather than finding someone you truly mesh with.
  4. Know why you're dating. It's OK to want to casually date rather than find a long-term relationship. But it's important to figure out what you want out of dating before you start the process. If you're seeking something long-term, make sure you're really "ready" and have resolved any baggage from previous relationships. One of the biggest mistakes is re-entering the dating world prematurely. You may meet the most amazing person, but if you're not truly ready, you'll overlook him/her.
  5. Keep it light and fun. Remember, you're supposed to be having a good time on your dates. You don't have to be out with the man or woman of your dreams to enjoy yourself. If you've agreed to a date: dress up, enjoy your meal and conversation, and don't worry about whether it'll lead to date number two. Chances are, if you've been having fun, it will!
  6. Take a fresh look at your online dating profile. If you aren't getting enough replies, add new photos that help people see who you are and why they ought to meet you. Choose photos that show you doing activities you enjoy. Likewise, look at your profile statement. Be specific about who you are and the kind of people you want to meet. Finally -- make the first move. Write to interesting people you find in your searches -- why wait for them to contact you?
So, enough with the tips -- it's time to get back out there. Just because you don't have a special someone this weekend doesn't mean you won't have a date for next Saturday! Each date connects you with someone new. And, because dating is a numbers game, sooner or later you will meet someone who clicks with you.
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A Yahoo! Contributor
Could have used tip #2 about 6 months ago. Ended up with someone completely wrong for me and tried to force it...what a waste of time. This article does make me feel better about being single. I also like that the writer is young and pretty and probably very current on the dating scene.
A Yahoo! Contributor
hi, according to the traditions and culture of my country ,it is something impossible.as u r only a wife and a mother ,but tough life needs something to smooth it ,and each woman feels her existance ,I am really suffering when I search about something romantic and I couldn&#39;t find .it a big crime her to try to feel your self so when reading your article i figure it out compeletly but sad as i couldn&#39;t say this a loud. women here are only tools for serving the manpurposes.not a human being feel love and be respected for these noble feeling, my love to all of you,wishing to have another world that appreciate my existance. manal,Egypt
A Yahoo! Contributor
Hi lam a very single lady of 30. In my country Zambia which is in southern africa it id a taboo to ask a man out. In my life l have never met a single man now am 30 have lost hope of knowing what true love is because l can not trust a man. hope you article will help me
Lee
I do get more hits with the hints that are given in the Personals. I would say you have nothing to lose and they do work!
Joyce
I find that the biggest problem finding someone is the distance of our locations. I do not even bother trying to contact someone far away, as in this age bracket, they simply will not drive far!! Any suggestions on this problem??
A Yahoo! Contributor
i am currently single, and all the guys i have met lately are married, i will take your tips at heart and see if they work for me.
No Photo
I think it is very hard finding that right one...but you have to weed out what you don&#39;t want. Don&#39;t settle just to be with someone...I am sure Mr. Right is out there somewhere..and it does help to get some advice on dating in this era....Good luck to all, Keep looking..
A Yahoo! Contributor
hi, everyone I&#39;m not very particular in dating, even on occasions like this ( Valentines day) coz for almost 10 yrs.now, I&#39;ve been use to do things alone, like having coffee alone, shopping or malling alone, do my reading stuff alone ,going too gym, brisk walking without any companion, even seeing a movie alone,been doing this for almost half of my life, but honestly I do appreciate much if there&#39;s somebody who will share his time doing those stuff. I am very] conversant in a way, but I prefer a fruitful conversation like facts of life and some sort of it. I&#39;m a single mom of 2 kids, ages 10 & 15 yrs. old.
No Photo
Come on..Go out there and find someone special for your heart. couple of months is just a perfect time to settld up. You have to pray your partner if you got the right for you. Remember honesty is the best policy.
Timothy
I know it is pretty unusual to find someone my age looking for a long-term companion, but I can&#39;t help it, the feelings are there. I am having a hard time meeting anyone in normal life to have a cup of coffee with or something. As far as the profile, I can&#39;t seem to get one Yahoo will accept, and I am not ready to start paying for monthly subscription anyway. I suppose I&#39;ll be alone for a while, I&#39;m going to deploy anyway, so another couple years alone at least. I understand about shopping, eating, and watching movies alone, though at my age it is not as surprising.
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